Perhaps you're resisting implementing our sexual harassment policy, and complying with legal standards). It's just so different from what the restaurant industry has known. "Oh gosh, if we have physical boundaries in our restaurant, we'll have to police everything!" This is what you're thinking, isn't it? "We'll have to have a "sexual harassment" talk every other minute!" The exact opposite is true. If you have strong boundaries, you have much less to deal with because pe
One of the reasons people resist the idea of physical boundaries in restaurants, is the whole concept of "friendliness." Well gosh a butt pat is just being, "friendly" to your teammate. Restaurant shifts can be a bit of a battle, there are time limits, and ultimately you get through the night and have a drink with your "friends." Just like a sports team, right? Let's examine the differences, shall we. The first important thing to note, is that on a sports team a pat on th
Many years ago I worked as a server at a very busy restaurant, and had a boss who regularly informed the staff what a horrible job we all were doing. The restaurant was breaking sales records, and the owner also went out of his way to say we weren't doing enough, and added degradation to our uniform. They both worked incredibly hard, were exhausted, and complained that the staff was unappreciative. They both thought that you push people to excellence through punishment. T
We’ve heard solutions to sexual harassment wherein companies have the women dress like men. Not only is this a completely ineffective band-aid, that “solution” entirely misses the point. It doesn’t matter what anyone is wearing, you don’t have the right to touch a sexual part of their body. Are we animals? Are we only instinctual and incapable of restraint? In hot weather, is everyone “asking for it,” because they wear less clothes? We have a lot of experience in the service
In order to address the solution to harassment, we'd like to begin with its cause. Within restaurant culture there exists a pervasive ignorance as to the legal right to physical boundaries, as well as to dignity. Most restaurants function without sexual harassment policies (though their workforce needs the protection, education, and support the most). Environments without boundaries are subject to the energetic tones of the most disrespectful among them... But toxic work e
Let’s start this off right - No one has the right to touch the sexual parts of someone else’s body. Not just morally - legally, no one has the right to touch the sexual parts of someone else’s body. There is variance between states in terminology, but within the workplace there are especially thorough federal anti-discrimination laws covering sexual harassment that specifically cover unwanted touch (and many other behaviors) that create a hostile work environment. So why wit
I had just mentioned restaurant culture when a man I just met summed it up so bluntly. "Restaurants are sex and drugs." I was taken aback by his succinct explanation, but I knew what he meant. Certainly in my serving career, drugs have existed at each of my jobs (not to mention alcohol). Food itself can be labeled a "drug." Moreover, his sentence described an industry that celebrates life, but sometimes with abandon. Part of is youthfulness, and part of it is extreme.